Introverts What the World Sees and What We Actually Are - Introvert Whisperer

Introvert Whisperer / Introverts What the World Sees and What We Actually Are - Introvert Whisperer Introverts: What the World Sees and What We Actually Are? “Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured… Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.” ~ Susan Cain   It is not easy for introverts to survive in this world. People think of you as an obnoxious, shy, anti-social, and reserved person. But the reality is way different from this. The fact is that introverts are deep thinkers; they are in their own head most of the time and engage in deep conversations with their own selves. They love to listen to others and give them enough time to talk their heart out. For introverts like me, the idea of a perfect weekend is reading a book in a cozy bed with a hot mug of coffee rather than partying with a group of people that I barely know. But that all make people think that introverts are socially awkward and geek. So, being an introvert, I decided to show our true self to the people out there which is quite different from what they believe. 1. Introverts Like to Be Alone All the Time “I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” ~ Henry David Thoreau That’s not true, introverts are not the aloof nerds. It’s just they are comfortable with their own selves and like to stay in their own space most of the time. They think a lot, introspect about their life, and daydream. But, saying that they like to be alone is not right because they love sharing their discoveries and thoughts; however, with one person at a time. Introverts love their personal space, and when they feel that it is being invaded, they cut themselves off. 2. Introverts Are Shy Socially Awkward “Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating.” Susan Cain Shyness and introversion are two words that are frequently used interchangeably by many people. But the fact is that theyre remarkably different traits of a person. Many introverts arent shy at all instead, they feel confident and at ease around people. However, they need more alone time to balance out the energy they expend when around people. There are many extroverts who may seek the company of others but feel shy or uncomfortable in groups. 3. Introverts Don’t Like to Talk, They Just Listen “Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.” ~ Albert Einstein Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something concrete to say. They enjoy talking about their life, their dreams, their passions, but often need an explicit invitation to pour their heart out. Once you get an introvert talking about something he is interested in, you’ll see that he won’t shut up for days. Another best thing about introverts is that they pay attention to what others have to say. They carefully listen to people, reflect on their thoughts, and then respond accordingly. 4. Introverts Are Obnoxious Don’t Like People “Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was.” ~ Cheryl Strayed Introverts enjoy solitude, they love their own company but saying that they are antisocial or dont like the company of others is not true at all. Introverts like people, but they generally favor quality over quantity in their relationships. So, introversion shouldnt be confused with misanthropy. They typically prefer having a smaller circle of close friends instead of a large network of acquaintances. Try creating a space in the life of introverts and you will know how deeply they value others.   5. Introverts Have No Valuable Thoughts “Introverts are collectors of thoughts, and solitude is where the collection is curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and future.” ~ Laurie Helgoe This is the most ridiculous belief of all. Introverts are the people who spend a lot of time observing their surroundings, people around them and their thoughts. They listen more than that they speak, so they always have a lot of information to process and a lot of thoughts to reflect on. Introverts would always give the deepest and brutally honest advice. When they have an opinion about something, people can’t deny it and would easily be agree to it. 6. Introverts Are Sad Depressed “A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live.” ~ Bertrand Russell The world has so many wrong beliefs about introverts. Trust me, introverts are the happiest people. Unlike extroverts, they are never under the pressure of pleasing people. They do what they desire, no matter people agree to it or not. If they want to spend some alone time, they would not hesitate to ditch a party. They have very few expectations from people; they mostly expect things from them and strive hard to fulfill them. 7. Introverts Can’t Be Good Leaders or Public Speakers “Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you ‘too much’ in some ways and ‘not enough’ in others.” ~ Laurie Helgoe Humility, resilience, compassion, and creativity are the most significant traits that are required to be a good leader, and introverts possess them all. To be a good leader, you need not to be loud and the most noticeable one. Introverts know this very well, so they always build meaningful connections and don’t easily get distracted.   People believe that introverts are shy and they are afraid to put their thoughts forward, but with their well-constructed speeches, they can leave the audience spellbound. Everyone is wired differently, so it’s high time people stop judging introverts. Solitude is something that can’t be enjoyed by everyone, but introverts very well know how to make the best out of it!   About the Author: Bottom-line â€" I want to help you accelerate your career â€" to achieve what you want by connecting you with your Free Instant Access to my 4 Building Blocks to Relationships eBookâ€" the backbone to your Networking success and fantastic work relationships.   Grab yours by visiting here right now! Brought to you by Dorothy Tannahill-Moran â€" dedicated to unleashing your professional potential. Introvert Whisperer